Relationships need to grow and evolve to become perfect. Here are a few things to talk about in a relationship that can help you do just that.
All relationships aren’t the same.
And the status of your relationship
has a lot to do with the things you and your partner talk about.
While conversations come naturally
as two people start dating and falling in love with each other, there are a few
conversations that can help create a perfect relationship over time.
So are you in a new relationship?
Or are you in a seasoned long term
relationship?
Things to talk about in a
relationship
Conversations between couples have
to be fun and yet, illuminating.
And here are a few great things to
talk about for couples that can keep the excitement and the love glowing
strong.
Things to talk about in all
relationships
Irrespective of your relationship
status, here are a few conversation tips that can help both of you understand
each other and create new exciting conversations that can keep the relationship
alive even when it doesn’t involve love and mush.
# Daily individual lives
Talk about each other’s daily events
and activities. It can help both of you understand more about each other’s
lives. Most couples ignore these conversations and end up drifting away from
each other in no time.
# Movies and TV shows
Movies and television shows are
perfect conversation makers for all couples. They provide for hours of
gossiping and interesting conversations with a fresh perspective every day.
# Crushes and second glances
Do you think someone in your
workplace is attractive? Or is someone from the third floor trying to catch
your attention by trying to flirt with you? Talk to your partner about it. It
may feel uncomfortable at first, but these conversations can actually bring
both of you more closer than ever before and even eliminate insecurities.
# Hobbies and interests
Do you like clubbing, painting or
playing games? Talk about it with your partner. Our hobbies and interests
change all the time, and keeping a lover in the loop will help both of you
understand each other’s likes and dislikes better.
# Silent conversations
Silence is a beautiful thing in any
relationship. Just being able to sit next to each other without feeling awkward
or having to worry about what to talk about is a sign of a perfect relationship
already.
But then again, are you both being
comfortable with each other or just ignoring each other?
Things to talk about in new
relationships
New relationships are more fun and
exciting, it’s touchy feely, sexy and doesn’t involve a hint of long term
relationship just yet. You may be floating on the bubble of infatuation and
everything may just seem perfect. If you want your relationship to stay the
same forever, talk about serious issues in a lighter vein and avoid any long
term plans unless both of you are definitely serious about the relationship.
Here are a few great things to talk about in a new relationship.
# Goals and focus in life
New relationships are exciting and
mysterious, but it helps a lot to start understanding each other’s goals and
aspirations in life early in the relationship to avoid the pain of being stuck
in a relationship with two different goals and ideologies towards life.
# New places to see together
Talking about new places to spend
the weekend together can be a lot of fun in a new relationship. Do you have a
few favorite hangouts where you like to spend a few hours over the weekend? Or
did you just hear about a new restaurant or a movie that you definitely have to
check out? Talk about it.
# Gossip about each other’s
lives
Talk about either of your friends
and their relationships, talk about work and talk about either of your favorite
shows on TV. In a new relationship, even the most mundane of conversations can
make your partner’s eyes light up. Help both of you understand each other’s
friends, interests and everything else with happy gossip.
# Lifestyle and habits
What does your partner like doing
over the weekend? How long do they take to dress up for a night out? How long
do they spend playing games every evening? What about vacations, family, pets,
hobbies, and all the works? Whew, couples in a new relationship have so many
exciting things to talk about, don’t they?!
Use these conversations to learn about
each other’s lifestyles and interests. It can help judge your compatibility for
the long term.
# Past relationships
Past relationships are suspense
thrillers in the dating scenario. We want to talk about it, but yet, we’re too
scared to talk about it before we feel like the time is right.
Don’t talk about past relationships
until you’re a few months into a new relationship, unless of course, it crops
up out of the blue into a conversation. Hiding facts about past relationships
or revealing them too soon can create insecurities and confusions that could
damage a relationship before it’s had the time to create a strong foundation.
Things to talk about in
seasoned long term relationships
Long term relationships are not easy
to experience, but if you’ve been past a few years and are still deeply in love
with each other, well, kudos to you!
Here are a few things to talk about
in a long term relationship that will ensure that both of you still think along
the same lines. After all, a perfect long term relationship isn’t defined by
two people in love with each other. It is defined by two people who love each other
and understand each other more than anyone else in the world.
# Talk about finances
Finances and money issues play a big
part in any long term relationship. And monetary satisfaction in a long term
relationship can be achieved only if both partners discuss ways to save money,
invest money and spend money.
# Your future together and
paired goals
One of the satisfying conversations
of a long term relationship is the one involving future plans and goals in
life. Talk about your dreams and aspirations with your partner and make sure
you know your partner’s wants and dreams in life too.
Sometimes we assume we know
everything about our partner, but it takes a few conversations and exchange of
ideas to truly understand each other instead of making wrong assumptions.
# Vacations and getaways
Vacations are a happy time for every
partner. Both of you may work hard all year long and may want to look forward
to something exciting and pleasurable to renew the excitement of love and life.
Talk about vacations, even if you intend to travel several months later.
Talking about breaks and romantic
getaways can fill both of you with a surge of happiness and motivation even if
there are a lot of hurdles and pain today.
# Kids and family
Families may seem perfect on the
outside, but every one of them has a few cracks that can be a minor annoyance.
Discuss about family matters and how either of you can deal with it. Talk about
kids and their lives ahead. And if you don’t have kids just yet, talk about
when you intend to have them and how you can plan for them. Conversations like
these are better spoken earlier than later.
# Intellectual conversations
and emotional growth
In a perfect relationship, both
partners must be able to predict each other’s thinking and behavior. But it
doesn’t end with little odd jobs or happy surprises.
Life is a complex experience that’s
as unique as we are. Have intellectual conversations about life, the paths
people choose, the hurdles both of you have overcome and mysterious forces that
both of you believe in. When you grow emotionally and intellectually as a
couple, both of you will come closer to each other, spiritually and
intellectually. And if that doesn’t make for a perfect couple, what does?
To experience a perfect
relationship, you need to remember these little things to talk about in a
relationship because they really can make the difference between a happy
romantic ending and a confused one.
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